Showing posts with label aging. Show all posts
Showing posts with label aging. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Headed for Sixty ... and thinking like a CAT?

OK everyone ... please stop grimacing and ... no ... wait ... don't throw things. Surely you knew this was coming. I love my critters. I love other people's critters. I love all types of critters. But I've had a cat in my life for as long as I can remember. Thomas was my first cat love and he endured moving from Arkansas to Louisiana to Texas and remained my best friend for years. After Thomas ... well ... I don't know.  There were so many cats with names as varied as Maestro, Dixie, Rastas, Happy (ahhh, yes, he was a magnificent cat), Nugget (as in Cat McNugget ... get it?), Angel, Chubbie, and the current two: Rosie and Goldie. They were all different but shared one thing in common ... they knew they were unusual and special.

If you've ever been the personal attendant to a cat, you understand what I mean. Cats know that they are NOT average critters. In fact, cats probably resent me calling them critters. I do that simply because it annoys them and because it's easier than saying, "The cats and the dogs need ____". I can simply say I need to feed the critters, give the critters water, brush the critters, take the critters to the vet, etc. There is no doubt in my mind that I've insulted the cats by grouping them with the dogs. But really, what are they going to do? They don't have opposable thumbs so they're limited in their attempts at retaliation.

I once had a birthday card that said "Cats know how you feel ... they just don't care." Well, in most cases, that is true. My cats pretty much are of the impression that I was put on this earth to care for them. They may "act" attentive and suck you in, but once you're hooked, they go back to their attitude of, "Yes, I'm pretty, now care for me." The current elder cat is a prime example. She arrived on my patio without invitation and was, well let me put this delicately, great with kitten. She took up residence in the "Dogloo" that we kept on our patio just in case the dog should ever want to sleep in it. HA! However, around that time, we were having an abundance of rain and our back yard flooded. I looked out one evening to see Rosie in the Dogloo and the the silly plastic doghouse was floating by the door. Seriously, what was I to do? I threw open the door, reached out and pulled the floating dog house over and invited the little pregnant thing into the house. Not having a timid bone in her body, she came right in.  Later, Rosie joined me when I went to bed. She was so grateful to me and couldn't contain her purring to show me her devotion (or that's what I believed at the time).  Most likely, she was just singing because she was warm and dry and had found the ultimate sucker.  Her purring was so loud, I had difficulty sleeping.

She had me hooked! The next morning, I set up a little birthing suite in our office and left her there in case the blessed event should come during the day. We continued this routine for a little over a week UNTIL ... Dennis needed in the office after I had left that morning and Rosie escaped. Being the wonderful, wise person he is, he decided that she wouldn't have her kittens that day and left her roaming in the house. That evening, I came in to a strange noise ... the ever so tiny mewing of a newborn kitten.  It was a tiny little cream colored kitten.  

Wonder of wonders ... I've never witnessed birth when I wasn't the one doing the pushing so I set up camp right outside of Dennis' closet (oh yes she did ... that was her way of thanking him for leaving her loose in the house) and watched as she gave birth to another little cream baby.  At that point, I was hoping she was through, but of course, you know she wasn't.  Along comes a gray baby and another cream kitten. She seemed to be through so I decided to give her some privacy and go watch a little TV.

After a while, during a commercial break, I decide to go and see how Momma cat and her little family were doing ... and they were fine.  Unfortunately, there were newcomers that weren't there when I left.  Another gray baby and a little orange kitten had made an arrival.


Fast forward four years and here I am ... and Rosie and the little orange surprise are vital components in my life.

Now lest you think that the other babies aren't loved, I assure you that each was given a wonderful home.  The three cream babies (who by 4 weeks of age had developed Siamese markings) were taken by our wonderful veterinarian who gave two to her mother-in-law and one to her niece.  The two little gray babies went to live with one of my co-workers and are loved and pampered as cats believe they should be.

I simply had to keep Rosie because she was so affectionate and devoted to me (remember the loud purring).  HA ... she was such a great actress.  Aloof ... this cat defines the word. Despite all of that, Rosie is a great cat but as you can see from her photo, she thinks she rules the world.

As for the little orange surprise, she was a surprise to our vet as well.  It seems that orange/yellow cats are typically male and it is unusual for females to be colored that way. So with a vet tech and two veterinaries agreeing that this kitten is definitely female, very unusual and more than a little bit special, I decided that she should just stay with me.  Unfortunately, she heard all this fuss about how "unusual" and "special" she is and now she expects royal treatment.

So now, how does this all relate to my grand scheme to enjoy the road to sixty in a full and wonderful way?  Oh, I am so very glad you asked. I have realized that just like my cats, I am unusual. I am a special creation. Everyone isn't going to treat me that way and I shouldn't care whether they do, but when I look in the mirror, I know. Trust me, I really know.

Friday, January 21, 2011

Headed for sixty and staying visible ...

Had a conversation with a co-worker who had read my blog ... she feels she is becoming invisible as she ages.  According to her, no one notices her (or any older people for that matter).  I have to disagree.  It is clearly my intention to stay visible and suggested she do likewise.

One thing I've decided to do is refuse to buy "ordinary" clothes.  If it doesn't have some detail that grabs my attention ... something that says "this article of clothing belongs to Nona" ... then I don't want it.  You know, it might be that little sparkle or a touch of bling ... perhaps a color that does way more than whisper.  I refuse to wear anything that is pastel polyester.  Please ... it's not that I want to be known as the "crazy old lady with the outlandish clothes," but I'd much prefer that to being invisible.

Accessories ... aren't they wonderful?  So yes, I did recently buy a rather sedate lavender sweater.  But when the right scarf is thrown around the neck (or even better, draped dramatically across the shoulders), well, you'd never say it made me invisible.  Now that I think of it, I may start considering my hair as just another accessory.  True, I'll probably never go punk rock pink with the hair, but it might change colors occasionally.  Just because my drivers license says my hair is brown doesn't mean it has to stay brown.  After all, weight used to be listed on drivers licenses ... and that was seldom right so I don't see why hair color should be treated like it is chiseled in stone.

So ... you know who you are ... don't allow yourself to become invisible.  Enjoy being older and embrace your entitlement to be just a little "out of the ordinary".  After all, old ladies have been doing just that very thing for generations.  We have a tradition to carry on.  But, if you're not willing to take my word for it ... just ask this lady.  She certainly doesn't feel the need to dress in pastels ... and I'm willing to bet there is nothing polyester in her closet.


God save the Queen

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Headed for 60 and thinking like a dog ...

Dogs are interesting ... and seem to have thought out this whole "dealing with life" thing.  They appear to  handle it quite well.  OK, maybe not all dogs, but mine do.

Please realize - I love my dog.  Actually, I have two dogs, but I really REALLY love one of them.  OK, now I feel bad.  I love them both BUT I enjoy the company of one a lot more.  You see, there is Abby, the pedigree Chihuahua that I really thought I had to have.  She is adorable ... lots of fun.  But, as her breed seems, to dictate, she is a little crazy (I lied about that, she is a lot crazy).  Plus, being a purebred, she thinks that we are all here to cater to her every whim.  If you doubt me, check out this photo.  Abby is the small dog lying on top of the larger one.
Now we all know people who have the Abby syndrome.  It's all about "me - me - me" and their concern isn't whether or not you will object to their behavior.  Their thoughts tend to be centered on whether they can get by with their behavior.  In this case, Abby does.

But then there is the other dog ... the one that I paid nothing for.  She's the Australian Shepherd mix that Abby uses for her cushion.  Girlfriend is such a great companion.  (Yes, Girlfriend is her name ... think about a dog's name before you name them.  Going down the street yelling "Girlfriend, Girlfriend" will get you strange looks.)  She and I chat (ok, I chat and she listens ... see why I like her) and I believe her spirit is one of thankfulness.  My wonderful husband, Dennis, found Girlfriend abandoned, starving and covered in fleas and mud. Along with her was one puppy (we searched and that is all we could find)  that was still nursing on her and Girlfriend literally looked like a skeleton with skin draped over it.  She was a very timid dog, but after some confidence building, she is fun, she is loving, and she seems truly grateful for her cushy life.

Heading toward 60, I plan to think more like my dogs.  After all, there are lessons to learn from each of them.  Abby could show me the advantages of looking out for myself.  Seriously, we do need to take care of ourselves and not depend on others to do that.  Example:  I am the only one who can be sure I eat right, get enough sleep, and make it to the Y on a somewhat regular basis.

From Girlfriend, I can learn the act of humility and kindness.  She really doesn't seem to mind being Abby's soft spot to sleep.  Giving a smile or a kind word to those I meet every day is thinking like Girlfriend does.  Girlfriend is thankful ... I love the brisk swishing of her tail when I come in the door from work.  From Girlfriend, I can learn to be thankful to God for a warm (or cool, after all this is Texas and the weather can change on a whim) home, a soft bed, a loving family, and the list could go on forever.
But what about this dog?
I don't know this dog ... but I think I'd like to.  Don't you think this dog has stress conquered?  It just makes me laugh.  When I saw this picture, I decided to think like a dog and never take myself too seriously, trust those around me, and accept the love that is available to me everyday.  This dog doesn't seem to have a care in the world and ... in dog years ... may be well past the age of 60.
You go dog ... you're my Rock Star!

"In order to really enjoy a dog, 
one doesn't merely try to train him to be semi human.  
The point of it is to open oneself 
to the possibility of becoming partly a dog."
~Edward Hoagland













Sunday, January 9, 2011

Decisions, decisions, decisions ...

Well, what do you know ...  I'm back.

When I decided to blog, it didn't occur to me right off the bat to decide how often to blog.  Seriously, do I blog daily as Julie did in the movie Julie and Julia? Seems systematic and orderly, but systematic and orderly isn't exactly my cup of tea.  Julie, the movie character ... well also the real person because she was more than a character -- you know, the book being based on a real life person named Julie who really did blog her way through Julia Childs' Mastering the Art of French Cooking one recipe (or sometimes more than one as the book includes 536 recipes) a day and blog about it.  Really, how did she have time for anything else?  After working, in her own words, as a "Government drone by day", her evenings were devoted to all that shopping and chopping and measuring and cooking those complicated recipes every day - then eating them - and then sitting down every evening to blog about it on a very full tummy when we all know that full tummies make us sleepy!  But, I digress.

So do I blog every day?  I really don't see that happening.  Seems like a lot of pressure to be under and goodness knows, life has enough pressure without the self-induced variety.  I really don't want this to be a bothersome task.  So maybe once a month?  I'm not sure that's even blogging ... but rather semi-blogging.  Why bother if, in a full year, you only come up with 12 entries?  So once a day is too much but once a month is not enough.  Maybe I'll blog once a week.  But what if I have a phenomenal idea (hey, it's possible) mid-week??? What then?  So in my usual non-systematic and not at all orderly way I've decided that I'll blog whenever I feel like it.  OK, I do work best under a little bit of pressure so I promise that I will blog every weekend (either Saturday or Sunday) ... even if I have nothing to blog about.  But, for the most part, you may expect a mid-week blog as well.  There.  Rule established.  Wait, I don't want there to have to be rules.  Perhaps I should say "semi-structured, non-systematic, totally without order guideline established".  Ahhh yes, that is much better.  I feel like I have accomplished something now.

Well, what am I going to blog about?  Hopefully things that help me have fun during this crazy "not quite 60" year that I've entered.  I'll talk about things I discover about myself that I really like and maybe, just maybe ... if I'm feeling very trustful of you ... I'll tell you some things that I'm really not happy with.  Whatever I blog, I really do want your feed back.  If I hit a nerve or a funny bone, let me know.  If you enjoy my blog, please feel free to share the site with others.

Let all who read my blog feel welcome.  By sharing this journey with me, hopefully you'll learn something about yourself as well.

Bunches,
Nona

Monday, December 27, 2010

Coming Attractions

Coming ... January 7, 2011 ... the tale of a semi-crazy woman trying desperately hard to not go completely crazy.  The reason I fear my sanity is the 59th birthday.  Yes, that's right ... not the 60th but the 59th.  I only dread the 59th because it immediately precedes the 60th.  With that in mind, I'm going to use the blog to prepare myself, in this last year of being 50 something, to be 60.  Join me ... share your thoughts with me ... and place your bets on whether I continue to teeter on the brink of sanity or plunge, headfirst, completely overboard.

Nona